There is no denying being a Mom can be one of the most stressful jobs out there. Now add in having twins, step-kids, school activities, appointments, health issues, and let’s just say it all adds up.
Three years ago, I would have been overwhelmed to the maximum. I wouldn’t have been able to find joy or happiness in ANYTHING happening around me. I wish I could say I was exaggerating that I probably felt like the world was ending over something as small as forgetting to get something at the store.
Fast forward to the here and now. There are still tons of appointments around the clock, meetings, extracurricular activities , the twins at school, and so much more. There’s ALOT that goes on in our home. There’s still plenty of stress but I can say, I am the happiest I have ever been.
So what Changed?
I don’t have a magic answer.
I found ways to get myself feeling more organized so I could be in control. I’ve played with various planners until I found the right ones that worked for me. This year I’ve been playing with the Day Designer planners. We are only a few days into the year but I find myself making notes, and setting goals that I can focus on.
I stopped being so hard on myself. I actually had one of the twins’ specialists look right at me, tell me to completely delete what another had said, and get rid of any guilt from this point forward. He told me he’d never seen a parent so involved and it was okay if I needed to take a step back.
Even if I am frustrated, I force myself to find a positive. There is ALWAYS something to be happy about. For every negative thing you say, you need to say two positive things. Just think-
- What are you thankful for?
- What good things happened today?
- What do you have to appreciate?
Take time out for yourself. Five minutes. Maybe you need to take a soak in the bath, just sit down and do absolutely nothing (yes, we all know about hiding in the bathroom!) Play a video game, read a book. You have to make time for YOU.
If you can’t fall asleep because you “have too much on your plate”, make a brain dump. Literally make a list of every single thing you are thinking about. Maybe there’s things you are worrying about getting done or you just need to de-stress, when a computer is overloaded with files, we run de-frag…your brain needs a chance to “de-frag”! I’ve taken a notebook page and scribbled out every thing I was thinking of so I could then say, I’ll get back to it.
I’m not saying it is easy. It takes being consistent until you have made it a habit.